Counter-transference in the Massage
Profession
Counter-transference is when we the therapist
allow our unresolved feelings and behaviors to influence our work with
clients.
When this occurs, we are operating on a hidden agenda to get our
own needs met, rather than focusing on the needs of the clients.
Signs of Counter-transference
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thinking that only you can help this person and it is a good
thing that they found you.
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acting out on the crush the client has on
you, accepting the date or request for social interaction
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needing constant approval of your work
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constantly giving advice to clients
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reducing our fees thinking it will bring
more clients or help someone out
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rescuing clients - see Drama
Triangle
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reacting strongly emotionally to a client
being late or requesting something
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feeling frustrated when a client is not
getting better
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feeling exhausted, giving too much,
injuring yourself, burnout, not taking care of yourself physically
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not taking care of your emotional and
spiritual needs
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being sexually attracted to clients often
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feeling like a client is pushing your
buttons
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over-identifying with a client
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coming home with neck pain after working
on people with neck problems
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thinking that everyone has the same thing
that you do
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trying to solve the client's personal
problems or work problems
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unable to feel compassion and empathy
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unable to say "I don't know" to
the client
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dreading the session with the client,
hoping they will cancel or not show up
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boredom
Dealing with Countertransference
Transference and countertransference
happens. It is a normal part of any and all relationships.
Becoming aware of yourself, your needs and
getting them met outside of your practice will help you create boundaries to
keep you and your client safe.
Supervision and
peer supervision groups is essential in learning
about yourself from a more experienced practitioner and massage peers.
