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agenda to get our own needs met, rather than focusing on the needs of the clients.
Signs of Counter-transference
thinking that only you can help this person and it is a good thing that they found you.
acting out on the crush the client has on you, accepting the date or request for social interaction
needing constant approval of your work
constantly giving advice to clients
reducing our fees thinking it will bring more clients or help someone out
rescuing clients - see Drama Triangle
reacting strongly emotionally to a client being late or requesting something
feeling frustrated when a client is not getting better
feeling exhausted, giving too much, injuring yourself, burnout, not taking care of yourself physically
not taking care of your emotional and spiritual needs
being sexually attracted to clients often
feeling like a client is pushing your buttons
over-identifying with a client
coming home with neck pain after working on people with neck problems
thinking that everyone has the same thing that you do
trying to solve the client's personal problems or work problems
unable to feel compassion and empathy
unable to say "I don't know" to the client
dreading the session with the client, hoping they will cancel or not show up
boredom
Dealing with Countertransference
Transference and countertransference happens. It is a normal part of any and all relationships.
Becoming aware of yourself, your needs and getting them met outside of your practice will help you create boundaries to keep you and your client safe.
Supervision and peer supervision groups is essential in learning about yourself from a more experienced practitioner and massage peers.
